Monday, 23 November 2009
Men are being trained to feel like they need to convince, connive, or coerce a woman into being sexual with them. Perhaps somewhere deep down inside, not fully believing that women do, in fact, have sexual desire. Entice that desire rather than force your will.
Allow her the gift of being able to fully feel her desire for you, and her desire to be sexual with you. Her desire to open to you. Allow that lotus flower to blossom. It’s petals opening. You don’t get a flower to blossom by forcefully pulling its petals apart. Rather it is your attention and your patience that will see the flower come to bloom.
We have a culture of men teaching other men all these ways of tricking women into fucking them, leaving a wide swath of women distrustful of men, and more closed off than ever.
What if we were to shift that culture to one in which men loved women. Not just loved to fuck them, but really loved women. I’ve repeatedly gotten feedback from women about the line on my How to Be an Erotic Rockstar page, “An Erotic Rockstar leaves women better than he found them. The women he connects with part ways with him feeling really good about the connection however long or brief it lasted. As does he. They all feel as though their lives are better for having met him”.
There is a reason that women love that quote so much. What if you took the amount of time, energy, and resources that you spent trying to figure out how to get a woman to let you do things to her, and instead spent it learning how to inspire her to truly desire to do those things with you?
What if you spent your time, not how can I get what I want from a woman, but rather, how can I serve this woman. Not as her servant, but as an empowered man. A man who doesn’t need anything from her, because he is whole and complete in and of himself. That if you desire her, you’d only want her if it was in her best interest, as well. Because having sex with her isn’t about taking anything from her, or doing things to her, but rather about sharing the gifts of your body, mind, soul, and connection together.
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I wrote the above after being on the “Sexploration with Monika” radio show, in which we discussed “How to Bang Hot Feminist Chicks”. Listen to that interview here.
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